Recognize and Encourage Personal Strengths: Building Confidence Through Appreciation
Recognizing and celebrating a child’s unique strengths is fundamental to developing their sense of personal power.
When children understand what they’re good at and receive genuine acknowledgment for their abilities, they build the confidence needed to tackle new challenges and bounce back from setbacks.
These activities are designed to help children identify their strengths, develop new talents, and internalize positive beliefs about themselves.
Through consistent, thoughtful recognition of their capabilities, children develop a strong foundation of self-worth that supports them throughout life.
Activities
Table of Contents
1. Strengths Showcase
Purpose: To provide a dedicated platform for children to share their talents and receive positive recognition.
Materials Needed:
Display space or performance area
Materials relevant to the child’s strength
Invitation cards (optional)
Camera for documentation
Refreshments for celebration
Feedback cards for audience
Steps:
1.
Preparing for the Showcase:
Start by having a conversation with your child about what they feel proud of or enjoy doing.
Explain that you’d like to celebrate their special talents.
Work together to:
Choose what they’d like to showcase (art, music, building, storytelling, etc.)
Set a date and time for the family gathering
Create a special space for the presentation
Practice their presentation if needed
Make simple invitations for family members
2.
Creating the Right Environment:
Set up the showcase space to highlight your child’s work and create a special atmosphere:
Display artwork prominently with good lighting
Arrange seating for performances
Create a stage-like area with a special backdrop
Set up any needed equipment
Consider adding special touches like a “featured artist” sign
3.
During the Showcase:
Make the event feel significant while keeping the pressure manageable:
Begin with a warm introduction highlighting your child’s effort
Allow your child to present in their own way
Invite questions from the audience
Take photos to document the event
Encourage specific, genuine feedback
Maintain a supportive, encouraging atmosphere
4.
Meaningful Recognition:
Focus on providing feedback that reinforces effort and specific strengths:
“I noticed how much detail you put into your drawing.”
“The way you practiced that song showed real dedication.”
“I was impressed by how you solved that problem in your project.”
“Your creativity really showed in how you designed that.”
5.
Extending the Experience:
After the showcase, continue to build on the positive experience:
Create a photo album of the event
Display photos of the showcase
Discuss what they enjoyed about sharing their talents
Plan for future showcases with new skills
Connect the experience to trying new challenges
Variations for Different Ages and Personalities:
For shy children: Start with a small audience of 1-2 supportive people
For active children: Include demonstrations or interactive elements
For group settings: Create a talent sharing circle with turns
For older children: Add a teaching component where they instruct others
2. Positive Affirmations Routine
Purpose: To help children internalize positive beliefs about themselves through consistent practice and repetition.
Materials Needed:
Affirmation cards
Mirror (optional)
Affirmation poster or chart
Recording device (optional)
Personalized affirmation book
Tracking calendar
Steps:
1.
Creating Personalized Affirmations:
Work with your child to develop affirmations that are meaningful and authentic.
Effective affirmations are:
Present tense (“I am” rather than “I will be”)
Positive (focusing on strengths rather than lacks)
Specific to the child’s experiences and personality
Believable and achievable
2.
Begin by brainstorming together:
“What are you good at?”
“What do you like about yourself?”
“What kind of person do you want to be?”
“What helps you feel brave or strong?”
3.
Crafting Effective Affirmations:
Transform your child’s responses into powerful statements such as:
“I am kind to my friends and family.”
“I keep trying even when things are hard.”
“I am creative and have good ideas.”
“My body is strong and can do amazing things.”
“I am brave when I try new things.”
4.
Create visual reminders by:
Writing each affirmation on a decorative card
Making a poster for their room
Creating a special affirmation book
Recording audio of the affirmations
5.
Establishing a Daily Practice:
Set up a regular routine for practicing affirmations:
Morning routine: Start the day positively
Before challenging situations: Build confidence
Bedtime routine: End the day with positive thoughts
While looking in a mirror: Connect with self
6.
Make practice engaging by:
Taking turns saying affirmations
Adding movements or gestures
Creating songs from affirmations
Speaking with different emotions or voices
7.
Reinforcing Throughout the Day:
Look for opportunities to connect affirmations to real situations:
When you notice your child demonstrating a strength: “I just saw you being kind to your brother, just like your affirmation!”
During challenges: “Remember your affirmation about not giving up.”
After accomplishments: “Your hard work paid off, just like you say in your affirmation.”
8.
Evolving the Practice:
As your child grows, help their affirmation practice grow with them:
Review and update affirmations regularly
Add new ones based on new interests or challenges
Move from simple to more complex statements
Encourage them to create their own without prompting
Discuss how affirmations influence their thinking
Example Age-Appropriate Affirmations:
Ages 6-7: “I am a good helper.” “I can learn new things.”
Ages 8-9: “I solve problems with creative thinking.” “My voice and ideas matter.”
Ages 10+: “I take responsibility for my choices.” “I contribute value to my community.”
3. 'I Can' Jar
Purpose: To create a tangible record of accomplishments and strengths that builds confidence and resilience.
Materials Needed:
Clear jar or container
Decorative materials
Colorful paper strips
Pen or markers
Special occasion for reviews
Celebration supplies
Steps:
1.
Creating the Special Container:
Make the ‘I Can’ jar a meaningful project by:
Selecting a clear container that will display the colorful notes
Decorating it together with your child
Adding a label with their name: “[Child’s Name]’s I Can Jar”
Placing it in a prominent location
Explaining its purpose in a positive, exciting way
2.
Establishing a Collection Routine:
Set up a system for regularly adding to the jar:
Keep paper strips and pens nearby
Set a regular time to add entries (daily or weekly)
Create a family routine where everyone contributes observations
Make adding to the jar a positive, celebrated moment
3.
Capturing Meaningful Accomplishments:
Guide your child to recognize various types of strengths and achievements:
New skills learned: “I can tie my shoes by myself”
Challenges overcome: “I can keep trying when math is hard”
Acts of kindness: “I can help my friend when they’re sad”
Everyday courage: “I can speak up in class”
Personal growth: “I can control my anger better now”
4.
Write these down in first-person statements that begin with “I can…” to reinforce personal capability.
5.
Regular Review and Celebration:
Schedule special times to review the jar’s contents:
Weekly family dinner review
Monthly “achievement celebration”
When facing new challenges
After completing a difficult task
On birthdays or significant milestones
6.
During reviews:
Read entries aloud
Ask your child how they feel hearing their accomplishments
Connect past successes to current challenges
Add new observations based on growth noticed
7.
Using the Jar as a Support Tool:
The ‘I Can’ jar becomes a powerful resource for:
Boosting confidence before new challenges
Providing comfort during disappointments
Reflecting on growth over time
Identifying patterns of strength
Celebrating personal development
Creative Variations:
Family ‘We Can’ jar with entries from all family members
Categorized jars for different types of strengths
Photo jar with pictures of accomplishments
Seasonal jars to track growth throughout the year
Digital jar using a special folder of photos or notes
4. Confidence-Boosting Physical Activities
Purpose: To develop bodily confidence and associate physical capability with personal strength and power.
Materials Needed:
Age-appropriate physical equipment
Safe space for movement
Progress tracking system
Supportive gear
Celebration markers
Camera for documentation
Steps:
1.
Selecting Appropriate Activities:
Work with your child to find physical activities that:
Match their interests and temperament
Provide an appropriate level of challenge
Offer opportunities for visible progress
Make them feel capable and strong
Can be practiced regularly
2.
Consider options like:
Martial arts (karate, taekwondo)
Climbing (rock climbing, playground equipment)
Strength activities (kid-friendly workouts)
Balance challenges (yoga, gymnastics)
Endurance building (running, swimming)
3.
Creating a Supportive Practice Environment:
Set up the physical and emotional space for success:
Ensure proper safety equipment and supervision
Start with achievable challenges
Demonstrate techniques personally when possible
Use positive, encouraging language
Focus on personal improvement rather than competition
4.
Highlighting Physical Confidence:
During activities, draw attention to physical capabilities:
“Look how strong your arms are getting!”
“I noticed you balanced for 10 seconds today!”
“Your body worked hard to climb that hill.”
“You’re learning to control your movements so carefully.”
5.
Use specific observations about:
Increased strength
Better balance
Improved coordination
Greater endurance
Body control and awareness
6.
Tracking and Celebrating Progress:
Create visual records of development:
Before and after photos
Charts of increasing capabilities
Achievement badges or certificates
Journal of physical milestones
Video documentation of new skills
7.
Celebrate improvements through:
Special recognition of effort
Sharing accomplishments with family
Reflecting on the journey
Setting new goals together
8.
Connecting Physical and Mental Strength:
Help your child make connections between physical and personal power:
“The way you kept trying in your karate class shows your inner strength too.”
“Managing your breathing during that run is like managing your emotions.”
“Problem-solving on the climbing wall is like solving problems in other areas.”
“The confidence you feel in your body can help you feel confident in school too.”
Social activities (leadership, service, communication)
3.
Structuring the Exploration:
For each new activity:
Provide a basic introduction
Demonstrate first steps when possible
Allow for independent exploration
Offer support without taking over
Encourage experimentation and play
Set aside judgment about “talent”
4.
Guiding Supportive Reflection:
After each exploration session, discuss:
“What did you enjoy most about this activity?”
“What parts came easily to you?”
“What was challenging in an interesting way?”
“Would you like to learn more about this?”
“What did you learn about yourself?”
5.
Document responses in a talent exploration journal.
6.
Recognizing Emerging Strengths:
Watch for signs of engagement and natural ability:
Sustained attention and interest
Requesting to continue or repeat the activity
Creative additions or variations
Quick acquisition of basic skills
Expression of joy or satisfaction
Willingness to persist through challenges
7.
When you notice these signs, offer specific feedback:
“I noticed you were really focused during this activity.”
“You came up with such creative ideas for your project.”
“You seemed to pick up the basics very quickly.”
8.
Developing Promising Interests:
When your child shows particular interest or aptitude:
Provide resources for further learning
Connect with mentors or teachers
Set up regular practice times
Celebrate effort and progress
Support through inevitable challenges
9.
Remember to:
Keep the focus on enjoyment and development
Avoid pressure to excel or perform
Continue exploring additional areas
Allow interests to evolve naturally
Exploration Structure Options:
Monthly themes (Art Month, Science Month)
Weekly taste-tests of different activities
“Try Something New” weekends
Summer exploration camps
Learning partnerships with friends or family
These strength-recognition activities help children develop:
Self-awareness of their unique capabilities
Confidence in their abilities
Resilience when facing challenges
Positive self-image
Growth mindset
Remember that recognizing strengths is most effective when done consistently and authentically. Focus on specific observations rather than generic praise, and celebrate effort and growth rather than just accomplishments.
Next Steps
Choose activities that match your child’s current interests
Implement them with enthusiasm and consistency
Document growth and development
Adjust approaches based on your child’s responses
Connect strength recognition to everyday situations
The goal is to help children develop an accurate and positive understanding of their unique capabilities while fostering the confidence to try new things.