Cultivating Grit: Building Resilience in Homeschoolers Through Action

As a homeschooling parent, one of the most valuable traits you can nurture in your child is grit – the combination of passion and perseverance that enables individuals to pursue long-term goals in the face of challenges and setbacks. According to Shaa Wasmund in her book “Stop Talking, Start Doing”, cultivating grit involves pushing past fears and discomfort to take bold action and learn from mistakes and failures.

At QMAK, we wholeheartedly embrace this philosophy. Our “Question More, Action Knowledge” approach is designed to empower homeschoolers to develop grit and resilience by encouraging them to actively engage with their learning, ask probing questions, and apply their knowledge in practical ways.

So, how can you foster grit in your homeschooler? Here are some strategies inspired by Wasmund’s insights:

1. Encourage a growth mindset: Help your child understand that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. Encourage them to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than threats to their self-esteem.

2. Embrace failure as a learning opportunity: When your child faces setbacks or failures, help them reframe these experiences as valuable lessons. Encourage them to analyze what went wrong, brainstorm solutions, and try again with new insights.

3. Celebrate effort and perseverance: Praise your child for their hard work, determination, and willingness to take on challenges, rather than focusing solely on their innate abilities or final outcomes.

4. Model grit in your own life: Share stories of your own struggles, failures, and triumphs with your child. Demonstrate how you’ve persevered through difficult times and learned from your experiences.

5. Provide opportunities for “desirable difficulties”: Challenge your child with tasks that are slightly beyond their current skill level. These experiences can help them develop resilience, creativity, and problem-solving skills as they work to overcome obstacles.

6. Foster a sense of purpose: Help your child identify their passions and set long-term goals that align with their values. When they have a clear sense of purpose, they’ll be more likely to persevere through challenges and setbacks.

By incorporating these strategies into your homeschooling approach, you’ll be creating an environment that nurtures grit and resilience in your child. They’ll learn to embrace challenges, persist through difficulties, and view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

As Wasmund emphasizes in her book, taking action is key to personal growth and success. By encouraging your homeschooler to apply their knowledge in practical ways and push past their fears and comfort zones, you’ll be setting them up for a lifetime of resilience and achievement.

Remember, cultivating grit is an ongoing process that requires patience, support, and encouragement. By consistently modeling and reinforcing these values in your homeschooling journey, you’ll be equipping your child with the tools they need to thrive in the face of life’s challenges and pursue their goals with passion and determination.

So, start today by embracing the power of action and resilience in your homeschooling approach. By nurturing grit in your child, you’ll be giving them a foundation for success that will serve them well beyond their educational years and into all aspects of their lives.

Recommended Activities for Students

Objective: To reframe failure as an opportunity for growth and learning.

  1. As a family, share stories of times when you experienced failure or setbacks in your lives.
  2. Discuss how these experiences made you feel initially and what you learned from them.
  3. Brainstorm ways to reframe these failures as opportunities for growth, focusing on the lessons learned and the resilience gained.
  4. Create a “Failure Flip” poster or book, where each family member contributes their stories and the positive outcomes that came from their failures.
  5. Regularly refer to the “Failure Flip” to remind yourselves that setbacks are a natural part of the learning and growth process.

Objective: To develop perseverance and goal-setting skills.

  1. Have your child identify a challenging but achievable long-term goal related to their passions or interests (e.g., learning a new instrument, mastering a difficult skill, or completing a complex project).
  2. Help them break down the goal into smaller, manageable steps and create a timeline for achieving each milestone.
  3. Encourage your child to track their progress, celebrate small victories, and reflect on challenges they encounter along the way.
  4. Regularly check in with your child to provide support, encouragement, and guidance as they work towards their goal.
  5. When the goal is achieved, celebrate their success and discuss how their perseverance and effort contributed to the outcome.

Objective: To learn from examples of grit and resilience in real life.

  1. Have your child (or family) research and identify individuals who have demonstrated remarkable grit and resilience in the face of challenges (e.g., athletes, scientists, activists, or historical figures).
  2. Encourage them to learn about these role models’ life stories, focusing on the obstacles they faced and how they persevered.
  3. Ask your child to create a presentation, poster, or report showcasing what they’ve learned about these grit role models and the lessons they can apply to their own lives.
  4. Discuss as a family how you can incorporate these examples of grit and resilience into your daily lives and homeschooling journey.

Objective: To build resilience by pushing past fears and discomfort.

  1. Encourage your child to identify a fear or discomfort they’d like to overcome (e.g., public speaking, trying a new activity, or reaching out to a new friend).
  2. Help them create a step-by-step plan for gradually pushing past their comfort zone, starting with small, manageable challenges and progressively increasing the difficulty.
  3. Provide support and encouragement as they take on each challenge, celebrating their bravery and effort along the way.
  4. After each challenge, discuss with your child what they learned about themselves and how they can apply this resilience to other areas of their life.
  5. Encourage them to continue setting new comfort zone challenges as they grow and develop.

Objective: To apply grit and resilience in real-world situations.

  1. As a family, identify a cause or issue you care about in your community (e.g., environmental conservation, homelessness, or education inequality).
  2. Research the issue and brainstorm ways you can take action to make a positive impact, focusing on solutions that require perseverance and long-term commitment.
  3. Develop a plan of action and set realistic goals for your family’s involvement.
  4. Take action together, documenting your progress, setbacks, and successes along the way.
  5. Regularly reflect on the challenges you face and how you’re applying grit and resilience to overcome them.
  6. Celebrate your family’s efforts and the impact you’re making, while acknowledging the ongoing nature of the issue and the importance of sustained commitment.

BONUS CONTENT: Cultivating Grit Song

Verse 1:
In the world of homeschooling, where learning takes flight
There’s a trait that shines bright, it’s the power of grit
A combination of passion, and perseverance too
Nurturing resilience, in all that we do

Pre-Chorus:
Embracing challenges, as opportunities to grow
Pushing past fears, and the discomfort we know
Taking bold action, learning from mistakes
With grit and determination, we’ve got what it takes

Chorus:
Cultivating grit, in our homeschooling way
Building resilience, day by day
Through action and knowledge, we question and explore
Developing a mindset, that opens every door
Celebrating effort, and the will to persist
With grit and resilience, we’ll never resist

Verse 2:
Modeling the way, sharing our stories of triumph
Overcoming setbacks, and learning to fight
Providing challenges, that stretch and inspire
Fostering a sense of purpose, that lights an inner fire

(Pre-Chorus)

(Chorus)

Bridge:
Grit is a journey, not a destination
Requiring patience, support, and affirmation
By nurturing this power, in our homeschooling quest
We equip our children, to be their very best

(Chorus)

Outro:
So let’s embrace the action, and the resilience within
Cultivating grit, is where we begin
For a lifetime of success, and the courage to pursue
Any goal or dream, that we set our minds to
In our homeschooling journey, let grit be our guide
Building resilience and strength, with every step and stride