The Push-Away Effect: Understanding Why People Say No

Remember how we talked about negotiation and working together to make everyone happy? Today, we’re going to learn about something that can happen when people feel pushed too hard to buy something. Let’s call it the “Push-Away Effect.” Ready to become experts on understanding customers? Let’s go!

What is the Push-Away Effect?

The Push-Away Effect happens when someone feels like they’re being forced or tricked into buying something. When this happens, they might not want to buy at all, even if they liked the product before!

It’s like when your little brother keeps saying “Please, please, please!” when he wants something. It makes you want to say “No!” even more, right?

Why Does the Push-Away Effect Happen?

People don’t like feeling forced to do things. When they feel pushed, they often want to do the opposite! This happens because:

  1. People Like Choice: Everyone likes to make their own decisions.
  2. Trust is Important: Remember how we talked about trust? Pushing too hard can make people not trust you.
  3. Value Matters: If you’re trying too hard to sell something, people might think it’s not valuable.

The Push-Away Effect in Action

Let’s see how this might look with our lemonade stand:

  1. Good Approach: “Would you like some lemonade? It’s really refreshing on a hot day!”
  2. Push-Away Approach: “You HAVE to buy this lemonade right now! It’s the best ever and you’ll regret it if you don’t!”

See the difference? The second one might make people want to walk away, even if they were thirsty!

How to Avoid the Push-Away Effect

Here are some super tips to help you sell without pushing people away:

  1. Be Helpful, Not Pushy: Think of yourself as a helper, not just a seller.
  2. Listen and Understand: Try to really understand what the customer wants.
  3. Show Value: Remember how we talked about showing value? Focus on how your product helps the customer.
  4. Give Choices: Let the customer feel in control by giving them options.
  5. Be Patient: It’s okay if someone doesn’t buy right away. Building trust takes time!

Fun Activity: The "No Push" Challenge

Let’s practice avoiding the Push-Away Effect! Find a partner and try this:

  1. One person is the seller, the other is the customer.
  2. The seller tries to convince the customer to buy a silly product (like submarine shoes or a cloud in a bottle).
  3. The customer gives a signal (like touching their nose) whenever they feel pushed or pressured.
  4. The seller has to quickly change their approach when they see the signal.
  5. Switch roles and try again with a different silly product.
  6. At the end, talk about what approaches felt good and what felt too pushy.

Think About It!

  • Can you remember a time when someone tried to convince you to do something and it made you not want to do it even more?
  • If you were selling tickets to a school play, how could you tell people about it without making them feel pushed?
  • Why do you think it’s important to let customers make their own choices?

Remember, the best way to sell is to be helpful, honest, and understanding. When you focus on what the customer really wants and needs, you’re much more likely to make a sale and build a great relationship. That’s the real superpower in business!

Song: Easy Does It

Verse 1:
When you’re selling, take it slow
Push too hard, they’ll say no
Give them space, let them choose
That’s the way to never lose
Pre-Chorus:
Be helpful, not pushy, that’s the key
Listen and understand, set them free
Show the value, give them choice
Patience speaks with a gentle voice
Chorus:
Easy does it, don’t push away
Let them decide, it’s okay
Build the trust, show you care
Easy does it, and they’ll be there
Verse 2:
Lemonade stand or big-time sales
Pushy tactics often fail
Be the helper they need
Plant the value like a seed
(Pre-Chorus)
(Chorus)
Bridge:

It’s not about forcing, it’s about showing
How your product keeps their life flowing
Give them reasons, not pressure to buy
Easy does it, let their interest fly
(Chorus)
Outro:

Easy does it, that’s the way
To make customers want to stay